March: Grief & Growth Coaching with Tabitha Jayne
In March, Grief & Growth Coaching Group leader, Tabitha Jayne asked the question, “How Long Should Growth Last?” After reading an article of the same name, Tabitha opened up the group to discussion.
Of course, grief can last forever, but it seems how you feel grief and the depth of that grief can depend on a number of factors, including the type of grief we are experiencing. Grief does no only come from death or illness. We may grieve over job loss, a health scare, a stage in our life, there are many ways in which we experience grief.
“I think from the article you read and when she was talking about grief in general then a question arises of, what is normal, and the whole part about how long should I be dysfunctional”
“And you mentioned the type of relationship involved. It could be extended family; it could be an acquaintance; it could be a friend. It also depends on what type of relationship you had with that person.”
“Any change, the empty nest syndrome and then the mother’s wondering well, all my kids are away at college; I should be feeling really happy, so why am I so sad and miserable all the time? We don’t have this awareness within society that wait a minute, you’re grieving the change, for the loss of what was and for what now is. That’s actually perfectly normal.”
“Empowering people to take control of their grief has a really, really powerful ring to it. We as professional people are empowering people to take control of their grief and their lives rather than letting the grief control them.”